Conversations With My 18-Year-Old Self

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  I often see posts on social media asking, what advice would you give your teenage self? My advice is always, love the boy. I don’t live a life of regret; many things I have experienced have been lessons. I Read more

The Black Woman Is Broken

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Everywhere I look in society there is something new telling me, what is wrong with me. Clearly, I am broken and in need of being fixed. Essays on my attitude, my hair, my love life and more. Everyone can tell Read more

Being Superwoman

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What do you call a woman that truly does it all? Cooks. Cleans. Takes damn good care of her kids. Works a forty plus hour work week. Plus she’s always there for her family and friends whenever they need her, Read more

Chris Brown Documentary Premiere

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We all know, the great dancer/singer/actor, Chris Brown and how he is always in the media saying, “People just don’t seem to understand me.” Well, his new documentary, “Welcome To My Life”, shields some light on us getting a better understanding of the Read more

Gossip is Not a Lover

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Gossip is not a lover!  Slander, defamation of character, lies, half-truths and complete truth is a terrible playground for gossip.  As a young girl, I remember sharing secrets with friends that I thought was juicy news but later found out Read more

You Want That “Obama Love”?

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  After watching the farewell from President Barack Obama, the love bug has been in an uproar. Social media is in a frenzy and people are convinced that’s the love you want. But, how?! What’s black love anyway?  Let me Read more

The Illiusion of STRENGTH

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One of the biggest issues many of us face in our relationships as African Americans is the stigma of always needing to be strong. Most really have no idea what true strength involves. We sometimes throw being strong into our self-description; along with titles Read more

Intimacy

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When you hear the word intimacy, what comes to mind? Most people equate intimacy to sex or some physical act between two lovers. However, true intimacy has very little to do with sex. In order to build strong foundations in Read more

Author Spotlight: Ty A. Patterson

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Ty A. Patterson is a writer, motivational speaker, entertainer and entrepreneur. Her first book entitled “Southern Jewel: The Elements Within” was released in 2014. She is the owner of the home décor shop Phenomenal Gifts and creator of Pretty Personality Ministries, which Read more

Marriage, I Didn’t Sign Up for That!

Marriage is not only a union; marriage falls under several sub-categories.  Marriage consists of the following: Ministry Business deal Commitment Journey Hurt Loss Victory Hard work Marriage is not to be entered into lightly nor should it be discarded like Read more

Love’s Identity Theft

Loving you doesn’t mean that I have to lose my identity!  How many times have you found yourself in a relationship and the “honeymoon” stage had everything looking so wonderful as cupid’s arrows shot into your heart? However, as time Read more

New Year, New Love

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As we enter into the year 2017, it brings with it brand new possibilities of a fresh start, the proverbial clean slate.  What I love about the beginning of a new year, it feels like an opportunity to create new Read more

Love Refund

There are some relationships that I’ve been in where I want a full refund from the love that I gave!  Yes, a full refund please.  As women, we tend to give our everything in the relationship arena and because we Read more

Materialism: Are We Cool With Trading Good People For Things?

Today we live in an extremely materialistic society. Every time we turn on the television, radio, or even when we are out and about, we are reminded of what we don’t have and how less of a person we are Read more

Celibacy! Can You Wait?

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So 2017 is fast approaching, and one of your top resolutions is shutting down the cookie and to wait for Mr. Right or at least for him to put a ring on it. While the idea seems easy enough, the Read more

Three Reasons You Should Love Being Single During the Holidays

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It’s that time of year again. The temperature’s falling, snow’s on the ground, and the question is the same whether you’re at work, the beauty salon, the supermarket or the liquor store: What are your plans for the holidays? For Read more

Fall in Love With Reality Not Potential

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One of the biggest mistakes people of color make pertaining to dating and relationships is our tendency to date a person’s potential over the reality of who they are. Disappointment is the result or the effect of not believing a person’s actions the Read more

Why do we RAISE our daughters and LOVE our sons?

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Have you ever heard the saying we raise our daughters and love our sons? It wasn’t until my son became older that I really realized what that meant.  Now it is time for tweaks in my parenting to make sure Read more