3 Things To Do During the Holiday Season

Black People during the holidays

Yay the Holiday Season is upon us. I just love the Christmas season, don’t you?  Singing, “The snow is fallin’ and friends are callin’ yoohoo”. Gingerbread smell in the air and the weather is chilled. Kids with their lists and Read more

10 Tips For Dating in 2017

dating tips

Don’t be a cheap date. Allow him to take you to a nice place. State what you want. Never be passive aggressive. Decide what his purpose is… If he gives you a reason not to trust him in the beginning, Read more

The Black Woman Is Broken

Webp.net-resizeimage (5)

Everywhere I look in society there is something new telling me, what is wrong with me. Clearly, I am broken and in need of being fixed. Essays on my attitude, my hair, my love life and more. Everyone can tell Read more

Black Men at Harvard Organize #ThankYouBlackWomen Campaign

rsz_gl8a9634

A group of young Black men from Harvard are paying tribute to Black women in their own special way. Organized by Harvard basketball player, Zena Edosomwan, and photographer Sydney Claire, the project entitled #ThankYouBlackWomen is a short video comprised of Read more

Healing of a Nation

So here we are a couple months after our Inauguration and it seems that the world is in an uproar. One thing I have found with this election is that it has single-handedly, maybe second handedly, caused the most division, bitterness, Read more

The Illiusion of STRENGTH

Strength (1)

One of the biggest issues many of us face in our relationships as African Americans is the stigma of always needing to be strong. Most really have no idea what true strength involves. We sometimes throw being strong into our self-description; along with titles Read more

Love and Social Media

black-girl-phone

There are so many opinions when it comes to sharing our romantic relationships on social media.  Is there a such thing as too much?  In my opinion, of course there is.  Many of us love to celebrate those that we Read more

Intimacy

Intimacy

When you hear the word intimacy, what comes to mind? Most people equate intimacy to sex or some physical act between two lovers. However, true intimacy has very little to do with sex. In order to build strong foundations in Read more

New Year, New Love

new-love

As we enter into the year 2017, it brings with it brand new possibilities of a fresh start, the proverbial clean slate.  What I love about the beginning of a new year, it feels like an opportunity to create new Read more

Materialism: Are We Cool With Trading Good People For Things?

Today we live in an extremely materialistic society. Every time we turn on the television, radio, or even when we are out and about, we are reminded of what we don’t have and how less of a person we are Read more

Celibacy! Can You Wait?

images-10

So 2017 is fast approaching, and one of your top resolutions is shutting down the cookie and to wait for Mr. Right or at least for him to put a ring on it. While the idea seems easy enough, the Read more

My Vision Became Clear, Once I Learned to Love MYSELF!

love2

Self-love!  Many of us say that we love ourselves, but I believe there is a miscommunication between the word self, and the word love.  In midst of the long road between these two small words, during the course of one Read more

Fall in Love With Reality Not Potential

shutterstock_92585068

One of the biggest mistakes people of color make pertaining to dating and relationships is our tendency to date a person’s potential over the reality of who they are. Disappointment is the result or the effect of not believing a person’s actions the Read more

#FancysThoughts: I Still Believe in Fairy Tales

Life and living are so contradicting or should I say people, but who knows. Not long ago I published a post about my breakup, last night I shared a picture of our makeup on Instagram, and while I know I Read more

RELATIONSHIPS 101: 3 LIES THAT ARE KEEPING YOU SINGLE

swagher2

No man is an island or woman for that matter.  A lot of people are going through life happily single or miserably married without realizing that you can have both.  Yes, you too can be happily married.  I know, I Read more

My 20 Year Love Affair Part II……

The achievement of one’s dreams is not measured quantitatively. At least not for me. It is measured by whether the feeling of that hunger is satisfied or not. There is a big difference between waking up totally satiated and waking Read more