Relationships 101: Super Serenity

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“If you don’t like something change it, if you can’t change it, change your attitude.” -Maya Angelou Many of us have said or at least know the “Serenity” prayer.  Why?  Because it gives us a revelation that we can not Read more

Relationships 101: Feeling Broken?

Started to blog today in my usual tip giving format..instead this came out of my creative soul! “Let me introduce myself.  “I am doubt, I am fear, I am your ugly past, I am that thing that tried to kill Read more

What to Expect When Expecting?

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Let me first start off by saying that 2016 was a phenomenal year that I wasn’t really expecting.  It was like a good drama with all the plot twist, faux friends, and trips with an anticipated happy ending. This year, Read more

Why do we RAISE our daughters and LOVE our sons?


Have you ever heard the saying we raise our daughters and love our sons? It wasn’t until my son became older that I really realized what that meant.  Now it is time for tweaks in my parenting to make sure Read more

Relationships 101: The Relentless Version Of You?


Ever since my friend tagged me in a quote, I have had tunnel vision.  The quote said “I persevere. I am relentless. I persist. I keep going.” She said that quote reminded her of me.  So the word RELENTLESS has Read more

RELATIONSHIPS 101: Who Are You Associating With?

Recently, I had a discussion with a friend of mine about a particular “business” person.  I always keep it real and anyone who knows me will vouch for that.  Where this person might be really good at business, their character Read more



I have a personal PIN, not just for my phone or bank cards, but for the bank of VALENCIA, you have to possess the right PIN.  POSITIVE, INFLUENTIAL, and NURTURING!  If you don’t have the right PIN, you are not Read more

RELATIONSHIPS 101: Ninja Moves and Assembling Your Own Super PAC

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Most of us grew up watching Bruce Lee kick butt late night on Kung Fu Theater.  Or maybe, that was just me.  However, you can learn a lot from martial arts.  In martial arts, not only is offense taught but Read more

RELATIONSHIPS 101: MIA by choice!


Do you ever wonder if the reason people don’t support you is because they doubted you?  I used to wonder the same thing and then I realized that in the end, it kind of didn’t matter.  Honestly, I have went Read more


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How many of us have relationships because it looks good in public?  You guys are the perfect couple.  Everyone says so.  But when you go home, there is no love, no respect, nothing of any substance, but it looks good Read more



No man is an island or woman for that matter.  A lot of people are going through life happily single or miserably married without realizing that you can have both.  Yes, you too can be happily married.  I know, I Read more

RELATIONSHIPS 101: One Ring To Change Your Life

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Yes! Yes! and Yes again! We have all been seeing the engagements hot and heavy since December all over social media. Some of them are “awww” so sweet while others are a “uh okay”. Now either way that moment when Read more



So I often find myself giving relationship advice.  I come from a place of openness and honesty.  Realistically, I only can tell people what I know works or doesn’t work.   When I do this I use a lot of Read more