Ok, so just the other day I said I would write my review of online dating experiences, but I am almost over it already. Pulling a decent conversation out of these men is like pulling wisdom teeth. I just don’t understand, so while this post is somewhat to express my thoughts aka complain, I am
Ok, so just the other day I said I would write my review of online dating experiences, but I am almost over it already. Pulling a decent conversation out of these men is like pulling wisdom teeth. I just don’t understand, so while this post is somewhat to express my thoughts aka complain, I am also providing brothers with some tips, because ain’t no real women trying to be “wyd” to death. From my online dating experiences, I gathered these five tips.
Include a nice profile picture.
There’s nothing like a Black man smiling. Yet, y’all are adamant about posting these mean mugging pictures. However, we can deal with that. Maybe you need something to smile about, but what’s worse are the gang signs. IKR! It’s 2018, what grown man still trying to be down? This is an automatic “Next” for me! Also, it’s not as bad, because I do understand some people want privacy, but profile pics of objects are not really appealing. We can’t see you, but furthermore, pictures of money or cars only seem like you are trying to attract women with what you have, but later you will be talking about how women are materialistic.
Read the damn profile FIRST.
Read their profile. I see “looking for a real woman” (or in most cases “women” because for some reason men cannot decipher between singular and plural with that particular word), almost a thousand times a day in guys’ profiles. They often follow up with something like, “Not looking to take care of anybody”, “if you sit in the house all day and wait to collect a check”, “not trying to be no sugar daddy”… Let me share a secret with you fellas, real women who are serious about dating-not tricking, are going to share information about themselves, their likes and interests in their profile. If you on MzJuiceyPhat page, what exactly are you expecting? Meanwhile Tenise over here, has her whole life in her profile. So you are already looking over an obvious sign, but then if you do check Tenise out, you don’t take the time to see if she is worth your message by reading the other information she has already provided.
Strike a conversation from what you have learned after reading the profile.
If you read the profile, you already know Tenise likes jogging in the park and traveling. You are a fitness nut and recently got back from Cuba. Boom-conversation starter, “Hey, I see you like jogging. I’m more into going to the gym, but I do like being outdoors,” and you can go from there. Instead, all you guys send are “Wyd” “You are so beautiful.” The objective is to strike up a conversation to see if there is chemistry, but these generic and often times closed questions, prompts nothing that really tells you more about whether Tenise is worth your interest. And if Tenise is anything like me, she will stop replying SOON!
Interact and be equally engaging. It’s not just about you.
Some guys may start ok, but they don’t ask any questions to show that they are interested in the woman’s life or the inner workings of their subject. She’s asking questions and you are replying, true, but you ask her nothing in return to keep the conversation going. Fellas, we work just as hard as you do now days. No one is sitting at home with no life or nothing going on, if they are, they may not be the real women you are looking for. You can’t build with a woman who doesn’t know how to go out and handle business on her own. I mean, if you want a daughter or dependent, this might work for you. Anyway, we want to talk about what’s going on, and we also want to feel like we are heard. That’s another nugget, because if I have to keep repeating the same information, I’m exiting soon. I need someone who can remember me.
Scale back on the pet names.
Stop with these pet names so early on. Of course, I would rather be called something sweet before I am called a b**** but adding “sweetie” to every message gets annoying. Miss or Ms is no better. We are not your mama’s friend trying to holler at you. Stop it.
So guys, what do you think? Is this asking for too much or nah? If you try these tips and they work, give me my credit. Ladies, let me know if you agree disagree. My social media is in my profile. Happy V-Day!