#FancysThoughts: 2 Things I Learned at DWD



Happy Women’s Day! Today I wanted to take a quick minute and share two things I learned about women at one of Love Le Menu’s Dinner With Divas last month. It had been a while since I attended a dinner, so I was a little self-conscious. Because it’s a luxurious travel and women empowerment group and all the women are classy, you never know who may be there. Yet, there’s always intimate discussions, so even if you came with some sort of reservation, sooner or later, you will want to chime in. Last month’s dinner was at Albasha in Baton Rouge. Anyway, here’s what I learned.

  1. No one has all their shit together.

Just because people look like they have shit together, does not mean they have it all together. I say this not singling out anyone nor excluding myself (we all know I am a work in progress). I find it funny however, because other women often inbox and ask what the dinners are like. Then say something like, “I want to come but I don’t have myself together like they do…” If I could insert the emoji of the dude in the hat and vest with his lips pursed to the side holding the red cup here, I would but I can’t, so I need you to see it with me. NO ONE has all their shit together. Even some of the most enlightened, peaceful people you have met, don’t have it all together. They too find other things within themselves that they can improve on. However, you won’t learn that if you never open yourself to others as well as listen and pay attention. You won’t discover this sitting in the house. ‘Stop putting people on a pedestal’, is still one of the most meaningful things LLM founder and CEO, Karlyn Leblanc has said to me.

  1. Everyone struggles with time management.

Yep, it’s true. We went around the table venting, and you know what the most common scenario was? You guessed it- not having time for one’s self and/or not having enough time to get everything done that we need to do. American Time Use Survey say employees waste 34 minutes a day slacking off, so just imagine how much time that really is within a day, just as a person, and yet we are not alone. We all need to do better. But of course, as women, we wear so many hats, especially the modern women, it only makes sense. We are dealing with our businesses and careers, our children and families. Most of us can’t afford Beyoncé’s staff, so I don’t want to hear about the same 24 hours in a day, though I do admire all her work.  It’s imperative we find time for ourselves, however. That’s why I catch these dinners when I can.

So this Women’s Day, I just want you to know, while we live our own lives, we as women are still more alike than we are different. Black, brown, yellow, white, red- we’re all trying to better ourselves and hit our goals, but it is important to come together and honest and open discussions when we can to see the beauty in that.


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Event photos by Leetric the Photographer.

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Fancy is the Founder/Publisher/Editor-in-Chief of SwagHer Magazine. She attended Southern University A&M College as a mass comm major with a focus in PR. As a mother of 3, she resides in Baton Rouge, LA. She loves business, branding, Black people/culture/men, simple beauty.