From the Desk of a Diva: Self Care is a Form of Survival

01 Sep 2000 --- Worried businessman --- Image by ©LWA-Stephen Welstead/CORBIS
01 Sep 2000 --- Worried businessman --- Image by ©LWA-Stephen Welstead/CORBIS
01 Sep 2000 — Worried businessman — Image by ©LWA-Stephen Welstead/CORBIS


I spent my weekend doing the minimum and appreciating the little things like resting, dancing in the mirror, going to the fruit stand, and cooking. However I felt guilty about taking time from my work, yet nothing happens overnight so I doubt I missed much. I hope you all had a great weekend.

Yes, From the Desk of a Diva, is my business blog, but I was watching a Gary Vee video the other day, and he was talking about how entrepreneurship is the cool thing now, so everyone wants to be an entrepreneur. Everyone says they have some business or another. He also mentioned how society basically has pressured many of us into these roles.  I have thought similar before, but I also would like to add that society has everyone thinking entrepreneurship is this glamorous, life changing “thing”. As if once you add the title, all of your worries dissolve or something. Furthermore, along with that mindset comes these unrealistic expectations of many. Life is not a meme, entrepreneurship is not a meme.

For those who are all in, it almost becomes their identity. You don’t know how to define yourself as anything other than the owner of such and such, founder of this and that. When business is up, you’re up. When business is down, you’re down, and too many downs can lead you down another rabbit hole.

As I have really began to speak more about living with anxiety and depression, I realize many do not speak on it until there’s some major event. Many entrepreneurs live silently with anxiety and/or depression, not wanting to speak on such matters, because they live in fear of what others may think. Entrepreneurship is high risk.  Businesses fail and close every day. And this promise of success that social media and so many coaches promote only makes us feel like we are doing something wrong or we are failures, but in reality, blessings usually require a sacrifice of some sort, but don’t sacrifice your health, to uphold an image.

Depression runs high within small business owners. In an article, Business Insider says 30% of founders report dealing with the effects of depression. Self-care is just as much a form of survival as eating, keeping warm, or keeping your funds flowing. I think we place so much emphasis on this “always grinding”, “stay in hustle mode” lifestyle, that we are not taking the proper time to ourselves to simply enjoy the little things like nature, the white noise, and/or our families.

I wouldn’t ever encourage anyone not to pursue their dreams, but I will encourage them to make sure they are also tending to their mind and spirit. You can’t keep running a car without stopping to check to the water and change the oil.  Believe me, I know.  I hope you all have a great week.



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One more thing, I will be speaking at these events in the following weeks:

Women Mean Business Expo

The Blue Print

Small Business Market & Social (more deets coming soon)

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Fancy is the Founder/Publisher/Editor-in-Chief of SwagHer Magazine. She attended Southern University A&M College as a mass comm major with a focus in PR. As a mother of 3, she resides in Baton Rouge, LA. She loves business, branding, Black people/culture/men, simple beauty.