Matters of the Heart-Forgiveness

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Black woman hugging her knees
Black woman hugging her knees

Forgiveness, is a heart matter. It is essential to the healing process. Being able to forgive someone, first acknowledges there is a hurt that must be dealt with.  Next, it causes us to single out the person or thing that caused the hurt. Many times, we don’t want to lose people that we feel are close to us by recognizing what they, themselves or someone who is close to them, have done. We then must walk through the hurt, this is painful, because we are unsure of what the outcome will be. Someone may not be ready to deal with their own actions and go into denial. Others may want to reconcile; these people will apologize.

If there is no apology you must not allow yourself to hold on to that anger, hurt or pain any further. This is not for them but more for you to be able to move on with your life. People in different instances, no not know that they have harmed you in any way. Lastly, in the end the healing begins. This is when you forgive yourself and that other person. You are honest with yourself, and allow the hurt to go away.

Heal The City of Fort Lauderdale is an event taking place June, 24, 2017 at the African-American Research Library and Cultural Center. This healing experience will target topics that are taboo in many circles, however when addressed we can start the healing process. As a society in general we learn to have tough skin and not allow ourselves to feel the pain, because if we show any sign of weakness we have been defeated. This is the worst thing we can ever tell ourselves. If we never acknowledge the hurt, we cannot forgive. Once we have learned to forgive, we are able to heal.  Once we can forgive and heal, we are able to be better in our homes and social circles. When we don’t forgive we unconsciously suppress our feelings, needs and the way we would normally interact with others. There is a wall that is built that makes us deflect our feelings unto other people and we never allow others to come in.

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Sonya Artis, of Led By Motivation, will be one of the speakers. Artis defines forgiveness as the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven. She goes on to say, “There are times in all our lives when we either need forgiveness or need to give forgiveness to someone.  Forgiving is a necessity, but no one said it would be easy.  We don’t always mean it when we say, ‘I forgive you’ and other times, the action of forgiveness is an enormity…it is such a bad idea; it is not going to happen.”


“Forgiveness is truly something we should all practice giving.  It’s funny how many of us ask for forgiveness for our wrongs but when someone else request it we are hesitant on giving it. I have found that it is extremely hard for me to forgive others in certain situations, harder for me to ask for forgiveness and worst of all, hardest for me to extend forgiveness to myself,” Artis explains.


Are you in need of a healing moment? Are you struggling with something and need tools to learn how to forgive? Secure your tickets now for Healing the City – Fort Lauderdale.


-In the Wind

Arnya Martin Davis



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