Paul Lamar Hunter is the author of No Love, No Charity: The Success of the 19th Child, an autobiography about how he was reared in a family of 21 children but went on to beat the odds and be the first to graduate from college. Hunter recalls the strained relationship with his high- profile mother who was often more consumed with her work. He also shares how it he regularly felt that his mother appeared to care more for the people that she helped than she did her own children. Learn more of Hunter’s story below.
How would you describe your swagher? What makes Paul Lamar Hunter, Paul Lamar Hunter?
I am a person who has big confidence, and I have an outsized personality. My polarizing story is for the world to see how I overcame the odds to become the first to graduate from college out of 21 children. I am someone who is modest and hard working. On the other hand, I have strong leadership skills and vision, and I consistently set goals for myself. I am a Winner!
What was it like coming from such a big family?
In my book, No Love, No Charity: The Success of the 19th Child, I describe the obstacles my siblings and I overcame on a daily routine. I share what it was like growing up in the shadows of a famous yet detached mother whose affections were focused on the homeless shelter that she founded.
You went back to college much later in life and became the first in your family to receive a diploma. You have shared how no one from your family showed up at your graduation. How do you find the motivation to keep going?
Yes, I went back to college later on in life at the age 42. I graduated from Upper Iowa University in 2012, with a Bachelor’s of Science in Business Administration. My motivation came from two members who were not family members but who supported me when I needed it most, Dominica Stewart and Jasmine Lohr. These ladies recognized that my family members were not present during my graduation, so they applauded for me when I received my degree.
How hard was it to share your childhood story while having a high-profile parent?
It was difficult because my mother was a strong pillar in the community. She was involved in assisting the poor and helping people change their lives. She provided shelter, clothes, furniture, and supplies to the less fortunate. By the way, I had learned to deal with the circumstances but not to use excuses in life. The circumstances and excuses can keep a person stuck, but I am free.
Do you have any children?
I am the father of 4 children. 2 ladies, 23 and 20, and 2 boys, 18 and 12.
With this new wave of entrepreneurs and mompreneurs, we often get caught up in our work. Can you share any insight on what that does to a child, so we as parents can be more mindful?
I think that parents who have their own business must set a time of 9am to 5pm. They must not take their work home. They need to delegate responsibility to employees or co-workers and trust that the job will get done. We are losing too many of our children, because parents are working all the time. 40 hours a week is good enough and life is short, so show love, give hugs to your children and spend time with them.
What do you aspire to do next in life?
I would like to appear on The Steve Harvey TV show, Ellen DeGeneres show, Dr. Phil Show, Oprah show, Good Morning America, Fox & Friends, The Talk, CBS This Morning, The Today show, Wendy Williams Show, Jimmy Kimmel, Jimmy Fallon, The Real talk show, TD Jakes show, and CNN news.
Are you working on any other projects you care to share with our followers?
The completion of the screenplay has been completed. Now, it is time for movie producers to jump on board. The next project I am working on is pitching my story to People Magazine, Essence Magazine, Yahoo news, AOL news and Buzzfeed.
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