Relationships 101: The Relentless Version Of You?


Ever since my friend tagged me in a quote, I have had tunnel vision.  The quote said “I persevere. I am relentless. I persist. I keep going.” She said that quote reminded her of me.  So the word RELENTLESS has become my new favorite word.  I AM RELENTLESS.  According to my trusty dictionary, relentless means continuing without become weaker and remaining determined.  There was a few others, but I didn’t like them so I will go with the ones I liked.  My choice.  With that being said, this word gave me life and made me think.

We all admire the hero in the story, right?  Do you ever wonder why that is?  Most likely because the hero has overcome something and became great.  They have that relentless quality.  If you think about what you had to do in order to get where you are in life, you should admire yourself.  In times of comfort, we forget how we got there.  We forget that we struggled, or pushed, we persevered in order to get there.  Let’s face it, relentless people get things done!  To unleash your relentless qualities, I have three tips for you.  These tips came to me after examining my own obstacles and how I got from where I was to where I am to where I am going.

Tip 1:Burn the Box-Stop trying to fit in a box because certain things work for certain people.  Their story is not yours.  We look at some people and we think that success came easy for them.  A lot of times, people don’t tell the story.  We want to take the easy way out and fit inside of a success box.  Don’t worry about the box, create your own or just burn it all together.  People that are truly successful have done things their own way.  Let those people mentor you, but at the end of the day whatever you do-your name is on. Respect that!

Tip 2: Go for it!   When you develop the attitude of “what is the worse that can happen,” you will not worry about the worst.  A lot of times we talk ourselves out of doing something just because we are scared.  We stop before we have the chance to start.  What will happen if you try and you fail?  Two things will happen.  You will learn how to do it better or you will learn not to do it again.  The saying of what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger is a true saying.

Tip 3: Be humble, but confident!  Know your strengths and build on that.  Know your weaknesses and work on them. There are certain things that people have told you that you were the best at.  think about it and apply it to whatever you want to do in life.  There are certain things you are strong at and don’t recognize.  Just in case you may be wondering why I said be humble, it is because of a simple fact.  We get frustrated trying to be the best, when instead we should strive to push ourselves to be better than we are DAILY.  Accept constructive criticism from your mentors and build on it to make you stronger.

In my own life, I have been told “no” I can’t do this or that.  I would always ask “why not?”  We all know that person or child that wants to know why.  As adults, we sometimes accept others opinions as fact and let it deflate and stop us.  I don’t do well with word “no” especially if it is an unreasonable one based on someone’s opinion.  We have to stop doing that.  We have to become RELENTLESS in our belief in ourselves, RELENTLESS about pursing your dreams, RELENTLESS about everything.

Peace & Love,

Valencia Griffin-Wallace

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As a wife, mother, business owner, and new vegetarian, I aim to help others to grow outside their comfort zone. I'm one of those people who knows a little about a lot and want to share it. I am a straight, no holds barred type of person. I give real advice and tips using my own life as an open book of experience for others. "Anyone who has never made a mistake, has never tried anything new" -Albert Einstein