swagher2No man is an island or woman for that matter.  A lot of people are going through life happily single or miserably married without realizing that you can have both.  Yes, you too can be happily married.  I know, I know in the mist of the hen parties or boys night out, it seems like single life is the only life.  But ask yourself, why am I single?  You might know the answer or you might be utterly clueless.  So I am going to help you out.  Here are some lies I hear frequently and some I have even told myself.

LIE 1-I don’t need a man/woman!

TRUTH 1-No, you don’t need a man/woman and that may be exactly why you keep getting boys/twerkers and everything else.  If you don’t need something rather it is money or a job, you surely will never get it.  What you speak will come to true.  You may not think you need water until you are dying of thirst!

LIE 2-Something must be wrong with them, they are too nice!

TRUTH 2-Too nice is an oxymoron of sorts.  No one can be too nice.  Some people are just tired of playing games and they might just really like you.  I have told myself this before.  We assume that someone who is too nice don’t have a backbone and we all want someone strong, right?  But then if they are too strong, some of us will have a problem with that too.  In the end, you can be happy and have a love partnership with a “nice” person.

LIE 3-I have to date someone just like me.  Same race, same job, same this and same that.

TRUTH 3-If you want to date yourself, you truly don’t need a man/woman.  We are all different and that is what makes a relationship interesting.  I have dated people just like me and it was not pretty.  (I can be quiet a pistol). You are attracted to what you are attracted to, but don’t base that on stereotypes or other people’s opinions (especially not your single friends).


LIE 1-They will change!

TRUTH 1-You knew what it was before you signed the contract!  If you are basing your relationship on optional soon will be null and void.  You do not have the power to change anyone, they have to want to grow.  Change is for chameleons anyway!

LIE 2-One day I will be the main dish not the side piece!

TRUTH 2-This rarely happens…repeat this will most likely not happen!  If it does run for your life.  Karma is something fierce.  Sometimes being the side dish is just what it is…optional not necessary.  You can’t expect to ever trust someone who cheated to be with you.  FACT-I speak from experience.  Now I do know a few side dishes that have become the main dish (more power to you), it just isn’t for me, I don’t want to be in a relationship waiting to check the phone, your vehicle, or anything else.  Who wants to live a life where everyone is suspect?  No thank you.

LIE 3-He loves me that is why he is so jealous!

TRUTH 3-There was a day when jealousy was cute.  That day was high school!  An insecure man or woman who is jealous is childish.  FACT-this will not be good and normally will turn into an ugly situation.  There is nothing you can do to make that person more secure, stop thinking that!

If you have any relationship questions, please email me

Peace & Love

Valencia Griffin-Wallace

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As a wife, mother, business owner, and new vegetarian, I aim to help others to grow outside their comfort zone. I'm one of those people who knows a little about a lot and want to share it. I am a straight, no holds barred type of person. I give real advice and tips using my own life as an open book of experience for others. "Anyone who has never made a mistake, has never tried anything new" -Albert Einstein