RELATIONSHIPS 101: YOU AND FEAR

fear

So I was listening to a clip with Will Smith and he talks about fear.  It was very interesting and it got me thinking.  People are truly fearful.  Of what?  Everything.  The majority of life we spend being safe because we are scared.  We are scared of trying a new relationship or scared to get out of the old one.  We are scared of being different or scared to be the same.  We are scared of starting a business or scared of our job.  We are scared of yes and we are scared of no.  We are scared.

I’m not going to insert a cliché here, we all know them.

However, the true by the book definition of fear is basically the feeling that someone or something is dangerous.  Fear and danger are two different things ( I checked the thesaurus).

I used to be afraid to sleep with my closet open.  Why? Because something dangerous had to be hiding among the clothes.  Sound ridiculous right?  In my childish mind it was realistic and made sense.  The monster in the closet disappeared in the light.  Just like this sounds crazy now, it seemed logical then.  If I didn’t have it by the time the lights went out, I wasn’t going to get it.

What do you fear the most?  What is the worst that could happen?  If it is not life threatening or dangerous, do it anyway.  The best fear quote I have ever heard is DO IT AFRAID!  People say get over fear, that is easier said than done.  It is okay to be afraid.  It is not okay to let fear stop you.  There is a difference.

I was scared to be a mother, Lord knows I didn’t have a clue about raising a child.  I did it anyway and I am glad I did.  It changed me for the better, plus my son is the best thing since uncrustables.  I was scared to be a wife.  Been there, done that.  I did it anyway and now I know what love not luv looks like.  Let’s not even talk about the business aspect of my life.  Yes, I am scared.  I am scared to fail.  I am scared of the unknown.  I am scared I might open my mouth to speak and everything wrong comes out.  I do it anyway.

Somehow in the midst of all your fears lies the truth of who you are and what you are capable of.  I’m not going to say it will be easy.  You might get a little tired, frustrated, even sick at the stomach.  I’m saying DO IT AFRAID!

Peace & Love

Valencia Griffin-Wallace

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As a wife, mother, business owner, and new vegetarian, I aim to help others to grow outside their comfort zone. I'm one of those people who knows a little about a lot and want to share it. I am a straight, no holds barred type of person. I give real advice and tips using my own life as an open book of experience for others. "Anyone who has never made a mistake, has never tried anything new" -Albert Einstein