PARENTING 101: STAND UP FOR YOUR KIDS

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On the heels of the now infamous abuse that happened to the young girl with the cell phone, I am utterly disgusted by some of the comments I have heard and read.  “She should have put  it away”…”Why didn’t she listen”.. and so on.  Let’s be honest, how many of us listened to our teachers all the time?  I know I didn’t.

My son always carried his cell phone to school.  By the time he was in 12th grade it was allowed, but even before then, I made him take it to school.  Number one, in case any foolishness went down, he could call me.  Number two, so if need be, I could get in touch with him.  Number three, so I could text him and tell him I love him.

However, that is neither here nor there.  To be honest, I am that parent if you disrespect my son, I am coming for you.  That is a fact.  Yes, I am all about motivating and encouraging people, but when it comes to my son, it will all go out the window.  In recent years, I have confronted one of his supervisors behind saying something completely disrespectful to my son.  This man had all of 100 pounds on me, it didn’t matter, what you will not do, is disrespect my son.  My very presence demands respect and lets people know that I am not about to play when it comes to him.

With that being said, just like any one, a child wants respect.  I was that kid in school that if a teacher disrespected me, I gave it right back.  Just because someone is a child or under you doesn’t give you carte blanche to manhandle or disrespect them!

Now it has come out that the young lady was grieving behind the loss of her mother.  So all the people who says she should have put her phone up are like “oh okay?”  Why are people trying to see what was wrong with her versus what is wrong with this grown man?  Obviously, he is the one with issues if he has to manhandle children to feel strong.

It didn’t matter if she had a cell phone, mirror, or just a book.  At the end of the day, no one should be handled that way.

From my understanding, this was not the first time this man has done things like this.  So my questions is where are the other parents?  Why no one has stood up for the children at this school before?

People are quick to jump on animal abuse, that is clear by shares and post, but let some child have their cell phone….silence!

I have mentored at the alternative school to the so-called bad kids.  I never had a problem with them.  They were always respectful to me because I understood them and respected them.  If as a teacher your sheer presence doesn’t command respect, you might want to find another profession.  I’m just saying.

People want to say that kids these days are disrespectful and don’t know how to act.  The only difference between then and now is that there is video.  While some of us might shake our heads at how kids act, we need to remember most of us (me included) was far from angelic.

Kids lives matter.  Don’t wait until a situation happens to stand up for your child.  Let them know you are watching, aware, and willing to do what it takes to protect your kid!

Peace & Love

Valencia Griffin-Wallace

 

 

 

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As a wife, mother, business owner, and new vegetarian, I aim to help others to grow outside their comfort zone. I'm one of those people who knows a little about a lot and want to share it. I am a straight, no holds barred type of person. I give real advice and tips using my own life as an open book of experience for others. "Anyone who has never made a mistake, has never tried anything new" -Albert Einstein