Love Life: How stepping out of the “nice” box helps your relationship


PicsArt_1439231812937Close your eyes and imagine your ideal date.

It probably involves the woman being dressed up with the killer H’s-hair, heels, and hotness.  The man-probably a “nice” shirt and pants.  You guys have a “nice” dinner where you can talk and be sweet–making goo goo eyes across the table.  The evening will probably end with you going home to call your friends about your “nice” date.  Yawn!

My husband knew I could be “beautiful” and bring the hotness, however his personality was more adventurous than that.  His childhood was spent doing things I never could have imagined me and my Barbie doing in our leg warmers.  I was ready though, to do something memorable and different.

Our first adventure was at a local skate park.  They had a “rock climbing tower”.  There were people of all ages, 8 to 80, climbing up the wall like spider-man’s clique.  If they could do it, I could do it, right? However, if I am higher than a cabinet, my anxiety went into full swing.  I have always been scared of heights, but watching my husband do it, I knew I had to.  That competitive nature kicked in.  No way a man was going to beat me at something so simple.  I was a grown woman letting little kids show me up.  Really!

I set a goal that by my 36th birthday I was going to make it to the top.  It was a lot of false starts involved and a whole lot of screaming.  I knew the rope would “catch”, but that didn’t make me feel better.  There was a lot of ground below me.  “You can do it!”  He yelled from the bottom and I knew if I fell, he was going to catch me.  I trusted him that much.  Halfway up that wall, I felt sweaty and my heart was beating a million miles a minute.  He was beside me now, encouraging me.  “Keep going!”  I was determined.  “A million dollars if you make it,” I said to myself. Eventually, I made it to the top (on my birthday-2013).  I screamed all the way down, but I did it!  We celebrated, I was so proud of myself, I knew I would probably never do it again, but I did it that day!

Since then, we have hiked the falls in Tennessee, rode horses, and zip lined through the trees.  There is nothing like bonding over pushing your limits. Adventures help build relationships, one where you can have fun together.

Mix your relationship up, surprise your mate with an adventure instead of the typical “nice” date.

Peace and Love

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As a wife, mother, business owner, and new vegetarian, I aim to help others to grow outside their comfort zone. I'm one of those people who knows a little about a lot and want to share it. I am a straight, no holds barred type of person. I give real advice and tips using my own life as an open book of experience for others. "Anyone who has never made a mistake, has never tried anything new" -Albert Einstein