One evening while having a drink with an associate, she told me she would not have guessed that I was as smart as I was. I was little shocked. Notice, I said a little. It wasn’t the first time that I have heard that. However, someone actually saying what others have hinted to, is two different things. Society has an easier time believing that a woman who is a “diva” is dumb versus smart as a whip and capable of running businesses. Me laying out a resume or quoting dead Greek philosophers should not be a requirement to prove my brain power. If I told people that I have a range of books from Trump to Plato to Kimberla Lawson Roby on my audible, what would that prove? I never felt the need to prove my beauty or my brains to anyone.
As women, we grow up hearing or believing that being beautiful and smart can intimidate men. It is best to be one or the other, not both. I played my brains down when I was younger, but as I got older that changed. Truly if a man wants to be with you or people want to deal with you, they will accept that you can be beautiful and smart. I don’t like people talking condescendingly to me in general but especially not because I like makeup and hair. It is funny when people talk that way to you and you can throw some real book knowledge on them, most of the time they are speechless. No one should be intimidated by a woman who takes care of herself from brain to high heels.
A real “diva” can conquer the world with heels on her feet and a book in her hand (figuratively, not literally),
So don’t be afraid to be your smart beautiful self!