Dear RCF: What If Marriage is My Goal?

what if marriage is my goal

Dear CRF‬, “Marriage is the goal for some people and not for others. With that being said, would you date someone knowing that they are looking for a level of companionship (not marriage) with the hopes of changing their mind? Or just let it go? And if you do enter in said relationship, do you get mad at that person because, they aren’t willing to change?”

RESPONSE You’ll be facing an uphill battle if you choose someone whose life goals don’t match yours. If you want to be married date those who would like to be married. If you want children date those who also want children. If you want to travel the world, I think you get my point. Don’t go into a relationship trying to change your mate. That hardly, if ever, works. What you can assure yourself, if you take that route, is a lot of frustration and possibly time wasted. And if that ends up being the outcome, you only have yourself to blame.

About Dena Reid, Esq.

Founder and President of Code Red Flag, Dena Reid Esq. is a legally trained Conflict Mediator, Best Selling Author, and Motivational Speaker.

Ms. Reid’s mediation practice specializes in family and domestic disputes. She holds a Bachelors of Science from Cornell University as well as a Juris Doctorate from Georgetown University Law Center. Additionally, Ms. Reid holds numerous certifications in mediation and arbitration from the Scheinman Institute on Conflict Resolution. Ms. Reid has also worked as Commissioner of Mediation for the Federal Mediation & Conciliation Service. She uses her trainings and experience to help families and couples deal with conflict in a productive and mutually beneficial manner.

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