Dear CRF: I Don’t Love Him

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Dear CRF,

“I have been with my man for 15 years. I found out he’s been cheating for the last 2 yrs paying her bills. She’s not the only one there have been others in the last 2 years. I also found out he had a sexual relationship with the woman we adopted a baby from back in 2005. God knows how long that lasted because she still calls!!! He wants to work it out with me. Will I be stupid to seek counseling with him? I don’t love him but he pays our bills. Help!”

CRF RESPONSE
You say you’ve been with this man 15 years and you don’t love him. When did you realize this? Could it be 2 years ago? Now ask yourself, was it before or after he cheated on you? Finally, why are you with and raising a family with a man you don’t love and who doesn’t respect you? What are you teaching your children? Where is your self respect? Oh, I know you sold it to get your bills paid. I suggest you get your act together, start paying your own bills, and stop being a red flag yourself.

~Dena

 

About Dena Reid, Esq.

Founder and President of Code Red Flag, Dena Reid Esq. is a legally trained Conflict Mediator, Best Selling Author, and Motivational Speaker.

Ms. Reid’s mediation practice specializes in family and domestic disputes. She holds a Bachelors of Science from Cornell University as well as a Juris Doctorate from Georgetown University Law Center. Additionally, Ms. Reid holds numerous certifications in mediation and arbitration from the Scheinman Institute on Conflict Resolution. Ms. Reid has also worked as Commissioner of Mediation for the Federal Mediation & Conciliation Service. She uses her trainings and experience to help families and couples deal with conflict in a productive and mutually beneficial manner.

Originally published on http://coderedflag.com.

ear Code Red Flag,

“I have been with my man for 15 years. I found out he’s been cheating for the last 2 yrs paying her bills. She’s not the only one there have been others in the last 2 years. I also found out he had a sexual relationship with the woman we adopted a baby from back in 2005. God knows how long that lasted because she still calls!!! He wants to work it out with me. Will I be stupid to seek counseling with him? I don’t love him but he pays our bills. Help!”

CRF RESPONSE
You say you’ve been with this man 15 years and you don’t love him. When did you realize this? Could it be 2 years ago? Now ask yourself, was it before or after he cheated on you? Finally, why are you with and raising a family with a man you don’t love and who doesn’t respect you? What are you teaching your children? Where is your self respect? Oh, I know you sold it to get your bills paid. I suggest you get your act together, start paying your own bills, and stop being a red flag yourself.

~Dena

ear Code Red Flag,

“I have been with my man for 15 years. I found out he’s been cheating for the last 2 yrs paying her bills. She’s not the only one there have been others in the last 2 years. I also found out he had a sexual relationship with the woman we adopted a baby from back in 2005. God knows how long that lasted because she still calls!!! He wants to work it out with me. Will I be stupid to seek counseling with him? I don’t love him but he pays our bills. Help!”

CRF RESPONSE
You say you’ve been with this man 15 years and you don’t love him. When did you realize this? Could it be 2 years ago? Now ask yourself, was it before or after he cheated on you? Finally, why are you with and raising a family with a man you don’t love and who doesn’t respect you? What are you teaching your children? Where is your self respect? Oh, I know you sold it to get your bills paid. I suggest you get your act together, start paying your own bills, and stop being a red flag yourself.

~Dena

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