Dear CRF, He’s Just a Friend

he's just  a friend

he's just  a friend


“My man says that he’s jealous when I’m around a male friend of mine who I’ve had a past with but it’s over and done with. However, my man says he feels that my male friend still has feelings for me. Should I stop hanging out with him or should I tell my man to check his jealousy? Is this a #CRF?”

It’s easy to call him jealous and insecure but in this situation, if roles were reversed, how secure would you be? I’m not saying that you can’t be friends with this ex lover, I’m saying that the friendship should take a back seat to your new relationship. That’s if you want it to last.

Relationships are about trust, yes. But, it’s also about respect. While some may say if he trusted you there’d be no problem with how friendly you are with this ex lover, Id counter with if you respected him and your relationship you’d do what is necessary to keep dram at bay.

Now ask yourself, what do you want more, the friendship or the relationship?

About Dena Reid, Esq.

Founder and President of Code Red Flag, Dena Reid Esq. is a legally trained Conflict Mediator, Best Selling Author, and Motivational Speaker.

Ms. Reid’s mediation practice specializes in family and domestic disputes. She holds a Bachelors of Science from Cornell University as well as a Juris Doctorate from Georgetown University Law Center. Additionally, Ms. Reid holds numerous certifications in mediation and arbitration from the Scheinman Institute on Conflict Resolution. Ms. Reid has also worked as Commissioner of Mediation for the Federal Mediation & Conciliation Service. She uses her trainings and experience to help families and couples deal with conflict in a productive and mutually beneficial manner.

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