Dear CRF, I’m in Love with Two Women

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Dear CRF,

“I’m in love with two women, if I hadn’t met one, I would be happy with the other. But what do you do, when you feel “It”, for two women?”


You find yourself in quite a dilemma. My first suggestion would be to be honest with yourself. Do you really love these women or are you just loving the affection and attention they are showing you. If you can honestly answer yes you do love them both then you must respect them both enough to tell them the truth.

You see, being in love is not wrong by any stretch of the imagination. What is wrong is being deceitful. Let these ladies know how you feel. Have an adult conversation about how you managed to fall in love with both of them and then allow them to act accordingly.

They may stay or they may go. Just remember, if you love something let it go. If it comes back to you it was meant to be. If it doesn’t it never was.

At the end of the day, honesty is the best policy. There cant be anything with either of these women if there is no trust. I wish you the best of luck.

It’s better to bruise a heart with the truth than to break one with a lie.

~ Dena


About Dena Reid, Esq.

Founder and President of Code Red Flag, Dena Reid Esq. is a legally trained Conflict Mediator, Best Selling Author, and Motivational Speaker.

Ms. Reid’s mediation practice specializes in family and domestic disputes. She holds a Bachelors of Science from Cornell University as well as a Juris Doctorate from Georgetown University Law Center. Additionally, Ms. Reid holds numerous certifications in mediation and arbitration from the Scheinman Institute on Conflict Resolution. Ms. Reid has also worked as Commissioner of Mediation for the Federal Mediation & Conciliation Service. She uses her trainings and experience to help families and couples deal with conflict in a productive and mutually beneficial manner.

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