From the Desk of a Diva: Grit

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Grit, sounds dirty doesn’t it? As a diva, you probably like to be cute, but sometimes, getting dirty is a must. Nevertheless, I was reading about an event for entrepreneurs that Ashton Kutcher recently attended and donated money for a start up. He said that more than likely multiple people will have the same idea, but if he likes the person and sees that they have “grit” he is more inclined to invest in their business, which is how his company has donated to fifty other small businesses.

Grit is perseverance, hard work, and drive to improve. It is usually fueled by a goal bigger than one’s self. Those who possess it usually have experienced hardship, failure, and humiliation earlier in their lives. Experts consider it to be the number #1 indicator of high performers and a key characteristic of a leader.

Angele Lee Duckworth, Ph. D hosted a TED Talk discussing grit and how it is  the real determinant of a student’s success not their standardized test scores or daily grades.

True Grit: Can Perseverance Be Taught?

So do you think you have  grit?

We found this quiz online. Try it out.

A clear goal

Determination despite others’ doubts

Self-confidence about figuring it out

Humility about knowing it doesn’t come easy

Persistence despite fear

Patience to handle the small obstacles that obscure the path

A code of ethics to live by

Flexibility in the face of roadblocks

A capacity for human connection and collaboration

A recognition that accepting help does not equate to weakness

A focus and appreciation of each step in the journey

An appreciation of other people’s grit

A loyalty that never sacrifices connections along the way

An inner strength to help propel you to your goal

 

One with grit will have more yes’s than no’s and will work toward making their no’s into yes’s.

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In the News, Wendy Williams’s Latest Book

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Wendy Williams has added another book to her list of titles. She recently published her first romance novel, “Hold Me in Contempt”. We say recently, because the book was initially stated to be released April 1, 2014 but not sure if it was. However, HarperCollins published the book and describes it as “down and dirty”.

“Hold Me in Contempt” tells the story of a successful lawyer, Kimberly Kind,  moving on from her past, who meets her ideal man, King, and falls in love. There is trouble in paradise when both of their past discretions come back to haunt them and tests their love.

Williams told Madame Noire, ““I love writing and really wanted to tell this story using the full extent of my imagination… which is very fertile.”

So far the book has received a 3.5 out 5 star ratings.

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Monday Motivation: Weekly Challenge

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     Each new week, I accept whatever failures or disappointments I had to deal with the past week in order to move on. Sometimes, I literally cannot accept them until Sunday, because I am just that disappointed. My spirit is just that broken, but I have to remember to look at the bigger picture. It would be too easy to sit and dwell on what has gone wrong. That is the safe way. It is not easy to get back up and onto a horse that has thrown you off.

     This is why you may actually see me online cheery and positive on Monday morning, by Thursday, I’m simply clicking Like, or I may be MIA. Sometimes something has gone wrong, sometimes nothing has gone wrong, but I need to be recharged. I am tired, but by Sunday, I am ready to dream again.

     Plenty of people dream, but if they do not get up and formulate those dreams into plans, and then those plans into action, then nothing becomes of them. Those thoughts remain  just that thoughts. Meanwhile, you may actually be attracting the tools you need to materialize those dreams and thoughts into your goals, but you are not prepared for these tools and accessories, therefore, you do not recognize their potential. You cannot see where they fit into the puzzle.

      Today is Monday. I dare you to take another chance and pursue what your heart is truly desiring. I challenge you to sit and write out your dreams and then organize them into steps for actions. Do you accept this weekly challenge?

From Fancy w/ Love

Francheska "Fancy" Felder FancySwagHer FancytheGogetta

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Losing Your Own Battles

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I hate to lose.

When things are going smooth, be weary.  There is always the great calm before the storm. I try my best not to put my business and issues out to the world with this blog, and I must say that I am doing a great job, but if only you guys and gals knew what goes on, you would wonder how I even manage to keep my composure.  But I do.

The biggest reason I do is because I know someone somewhere is sometimes encouraged by what I put out there so I vow to keep going. I will continue to put out positive vibes that I know will over power any negative thought or thing that may come my way. You can do that too.

It is very important that you remain focused and positive. When the enemy runs out of things to throw at you, he will began to bring up your past, the very things you tried so hard to overcome and move forward from. But that should tell you something… the only enemy is your mind. We fail oftentimes to condition our minds when it is the most powerful thing anyone could possess. There is something called inner peace that you must achieve before you can achieve success.

Take a moment at any point in your day to remind yourself that you are very much worth every effort that you put into your business, family, life, and self.

Not everyone is going to be for you. You must have a strong sense of self so that you can be the one there when needed. You can trust yourself not to fail you, but it all begins with the mind.

Wake up a few minutes early to read or meditate.

Stay strong. Stay motivated. Stay encouraged.
-Rush

 

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How to mentally spring clean

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Wash away that self doubt and negativity that’s been lingering over those cold, gray months.
It’s warm again. Let the sunshine dry you. 
 
Write out your current dreams and goals. Jot down and dust off any unique ideas you have stored away. Throw out anything no longer serving a purpose. Rearrange your vision if need be.

Reconnect with a friend! The biggest holidays are over. You can unwind. Come out of hibernation and let everyone know you are alive and well. It’s spring time! 

-Fancy
 @FancySwagHer

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